Make Anal Sex Good For Her
According to a recent report from the United States Center for Disease Control, more and more ladies are open to the idea of back door action: 40% or women and 45% of men have tried anal sex.
Still, not everyone who tries it, makes it a regular option on their sexual menu. A lot of women reveal that butt play is reserved for special occasions like birthdays or Valentine’s Day.
That being said, it doesn’t have to be a favor on her part.
Kimberly McBride, a sex researcher at the University of Toledo, says, “The anus is rich in nerve endings, (and) if you do it right, it can be a really pleasurable experience for her.”
Here are some tips so that maybe next time, she’ll be the one to ask for it.
Get her approval first.
If she’s not ready and relaxed, it will just be painful for her. You’ll want to ask her if she up for the deed and work out any concerns for her beforehand and respect the decision if you get the stop sign. Also, if she’s game tonight, don’t consider it as open season for every time thereafter.
Play in the shallow end.
The anus can be an uncomfortable place to be stimulated to the uninitiated. You’ll want to start slow and light at first before trying out full on penetration. Try placing a finger or vibrator on the surface of the anus one night, then another night you can lube up a digit to gently insert. You could consider graduating to butt plugs down the road.
Be slick about it.
We’re talking about lube here. Two things to know about doing the deed for real: It does not self-lubricate and it is sensitive to tearing. You have to use lube and be generous applying it. Organic water based lubricants are a great choice.
Place her in the driver’s seat.
Contrary to what you’ll find in porn, thrusting too deep, too hard or too fast is going to cause her some pain. If you want anal sex to be a more regular inclusion to your sex life you should give her control of the speed and depth of the penetration. Having her on top for a variation of cowgirl would give her the most control of the action. Another option would be to go missionary and have her hands on the man’s hips to guide the pace. Lastly, going doggy would be a practical position with the woman given the responsibility of backing up onto it.
How do you approach the matter of anal sex? Let us know below.